A news article of The Sun on December, 28th in 2020 reported that a Russian man named Fazyl Khalikov, 37, killed his two children and himself on the day he learned about his wife's infidelity in Ufa, Russia. Khalikov's wife, Galiya, 31, confessed her infidelity with a coworker and wanted a divorce. They had an argument and then Khalikov took their children, Askar and Ayana, in his car. He sent a text message to his brother about his wife's affair and his plan for suicide, and took extreme measures with his 6-year-old son and 1-year-old daughter. They were found by the police at some secluded riverside and his wife is reported to be in a state of shock.
This news is an example that shows the danger and dire consequence of infidelity in extremity. Many people around the world consider the causes of infidelity to be problems of marriage, sex, and love, but Korea Institute of Psycho-education has discovered after a long period of research that the cause of infidelity is relationship addiction and the victimized spouse develops post traumatic stress upon the discovery of spouse infidelity. Korea Institute of Psycho-education has also developed treatment methods of relationship addiction and post traumatic stress due to spouse infidelity.
Such extreme incidents triggered by spouse infidelity are happening everywhere in the world, which may put anyone under such circumstances anytime anywhere. Accurately understanding the mechanism of infidelity and post traumatic stress due to spouse infidelity will save many marriages, families, and lives. Some people may just consider such extreme cases as one of the rare and idiosyncratic crime cases, but such phenomena can be explained by the mechanism of human mind and psychology, and may affect any of us at some point of our life.
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The wife had an affair with her coworker, which is the manifestation of relationship addiction accompanied by expression disorder and the disorder of memory of emotion simultaneously. The wife naturally self-justifies and thinks that her own infidelity is caused by problems of marriage, sex, and love, which in turn makes her want a divorce. She may think that she is in love with the adulterer in her consciousness, which is a typical symptoms observed in people in infidelity.
It is also a typical phenomenon that the husband develops post traumatic stress immediately, which makes him sense extreme psychological pain with the level of more than -100,000 compared with general psychological pain with the level of -10. The husband may be engulfed by the sense of betrayal and rage since he does not understand that his wife has a psychological disorder called relationship addiction. The husband's pain is exacerbated by his own idea that they have serious problems of marriage, sex, and love and his life has collapsed now. He may not have committed such a crime if he had known the fact that infidelity is caused by the wife's relationship addiction and has nothing to do with their own relationship.
Psychological disorders manifested as infidelity and post traumatic stress can be cured and happiness of individuals and family can be resotred through accurately understanding the mechanism of human mind and psychology and applying adequate treatment methods. If the man had known the true nature of infidelity and built the ability to be happy with or without his wife, such a tragic incident would not have occurred.
Now, post traumatic stress due to the sudden loss of her family has been added onto the wife on top of expression disorder and the disorder of memory of emotion. Without proper treatment, she is bound to live with an advanced condition of psychological disorders throughout her lifetime destroying the life of herself and people around her.
It is hoped that the true nature of infidelity will be understood by as many people as possible including experts and professionals of psychology to prevent such dire consequences and restore psychological stability and happiness in people involved in infidelity and their family.
