When husband infidelity is discovered, the wife may blame herself, blame the husband, or feel unaffected. Those who blame themselves or their husband are considered to have developed post traumatic stress and their mind operates to recover from suffering. Those who blame themselves make themselves suffer, and those who blame their husband make both themselves and their husband suffer aggravating the husband's relationship addiction. Those who feel unaffected psychologically are considered to be in an empty shell marriage, have selfish purpose in marriage, or be already involved in extramarital affairs themselves.
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When wife infidelity is discovered, the husband may also proceed to develop self-blame, other-blame, or feeling unaffected. Husbands who blame themselves and their wife have developed post traumatic stress. Their mind operates to remove all memories regarding the wife, the adulterer, and the infidelity, which are all sources of intense stress. Those who blame themselves make themselves suffer. Husbands who blame their wife develop a severe psychological disorder after getting out of pain and make the wife suffer and aggravate her relationship addiction. Husbands who feel unaffected psychologically are considered to be in an empty shell marriage, have selfish purpose in marriage, or be already involved in extramarital affairs themselves.
Post traumatic stress occurs acutely upon the discovery of spouse infidelity and transforms all past memories into unbearable stress and wounds. Victimized spouses suffer from the most excruciating pain others cannot even imagine. The first and foremost thing to do is to treat their post traumatic stress and restore healthy psychology, and untreated post traumatic stress will not only grow and aggravate psychological condition of theirs and their spouse's but also destroy the whole life of yours and your loved ones.
