Korea Institute of Psycho-education has developed the Theory of Mimind and Xesmind, and completed the on-line treatment program of relationship addiction and post traumatic stress caused by spouse infidelity. The Theory of Mimind and Xesmind postulates that the cause of spouse infidelity is relationship addiction, and infidelity continues or recurs multiple times unless it is properly addressed. Also, the wife's post traumatic stress caused by spouse infidelity accompanied by excruciating psychological pain, which can, in a metaphorical sense, reach the level of - 100,000 compared to general psychological pain with the level of -10, must be treated first before the husband's relationship addiction is treated. Without proper treatment of her own post traumatic stress, the wife is likely to aggravate the condition and give up on everything, or become an addict of different types herself. The wives who have had a good life taking care of family and home and career are likely to be more seriously affected by the discovery of spouse infidelity. Anyone can be put under the influence of the infidelity issues these days. The spouse who is involved in inappropriate relationships is considered to have developed relationship addiction and the spouse who suffers from spouse infidelity is considered to have developed post traumatic stress.

According to the news article about Kensuke Miyazaki and Megumi Kanebo, the husband's infidelity was discovered 4 years ago, and the wife forgave the husband and published the book titled, “The Power of Forgiveness”. Then, another case of husband infidelity was discovered recently and the wife is consulting a lawyer for the matter.

The husband developed relationship addiction with a case of infidelity 4 years ago. The wife suffered from post traumatic stress upon the discovery of husband infidelity. The wife probably made efforts to restore the relationship by forgiving her husband and avoiding her pain. This is a very common approach many wives take upon the discovery of husband infidelity. Unfortunately, the concepts of relationship addiction and post traumatic stress caused by spouse infidelity are not known to neither the husband nor the wife. Restoring the relationship and forgiving the husband at the conscious level may have been considered as the complete resolution of the matter. The publication of the book seemed to finalize the couple's story with the prospect of only happiness.

Untreated relationship addiction is necessarily to recur with another case of infidelity. The treatment of the wife's post traumatic stress is the precondition of the treatment of the husband's relationship addiction. Neglecting the wife's painful condition of post traumatic stress and forgiving the husband to restore the relationship thinking that the hardship has been overcome may cause even more serious problems. Under such circumstances, it is only natural that the husband infidelity should recur, and it just happened to have recurred in 4 years. The wife may have actually aggravated her psychological condition for the 4 years, and now, upon the discovery of her husband's new infidelity case, it is much harder for the wife to deal with the problem on her own, with extreme pain and suffering, differently from the first incident of infidelity. Both the wife and the husband can be considered to have continued with their psychological problems of post traumatic stress and relationship addiction.

Fortunately, couples who are suffering from spouse infidelity can restore their healthy psychology and healthy relationship. They can stabilize psychology and relationship when the wife's post traumatic stress is cured and the husband's relationship addiction is cured. They can become a happy couple again without having to experience spouse infidelity ever. Couples with problems of spouse infidelity must not lose hope for becoming a happy couple again.

According to the Theory of Mimind and Xesmind, spouse infidelity is not caused by problems of relationship, sex, or love. The cause of spouse infidelity is relationship addiction. The cause of the pain and suffering the victim of spouse infidelity experiences is post traumatic stress. As shown in the case of Kensuke Miyazaki and Megumi Kanebo, the wife must never be blamed for anything. She only did her best to restore their marriage and happiness. It is crucial that problems of infidelity should not be associated with the problems of relationship, sex, or love. Any couple who are properly treated for relationship addiction and post traumatic stress can build happy marriage again. Please, never give up your hope for recovery and happiness.